Gottman Method Couples Therapy

  The Gottman Method Couple Therapy is the only scientifically based couple therapy. It was developed by Dr. Gottman’s research of over 3,000 couples studied over 40 years. This research shows what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship.

        This method of couple therapy helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships.

Couples who enter into Gottman Method Couples Therapy begin with an assessment process that then informs the therapeutic framework and intervention.

Assessment
A conjoint session, followed by individual interviews with each partner are conducted. Couples complete questionnaires and then receive detailed feedback on their relationship.

Therapeutic Framework
The couple and therapist decide on the frequency and duration of the sessions.

Therapeutic Interventions
Interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning.

   Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed.

Goals and Principles of the Gottman Method

 Our research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future

 

            The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships:

 

1. BUILD LOVE MAPS: How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?

2. SHARE FONDNESS AND ADMIRATION: The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation and respect.)

3. TURN TOWARDS YOUR PARTNER: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards) them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship.

4. THE POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE: The presence of a positive approach to problem-solving and the success of repair attempts.

5. MANAGE CONFLICT: We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. Understand that there is a critical difference in handling perpetual problems and solvable problems.

6. MAKE LIFE DREAMS COME TRUE: Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions and aspirations.

7. CREATE SHARED MEANING: Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationship.

8. TRUST: this is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that person’s best interests and benefits, not just the partner’s own interests and benefits. In other words, this means, “my partner has my back and is there for me.”

9. COMMITMENT: This means believing (and acting on the belief) that your relationship with this person is completely your lifelong journey, for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse you will both work to improve it). It implies cherishing your partner’s positive qualities and nurturing gratitude by comparing the partner favorably with real or imagined others, rather than trashing the partner by magnifying negative qualities, and nurturing resentment by comparing unfavorably with real or imagined others.




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Bradenton, FL 34209

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Summerwind Circle
Bradenton, FL 34209
(215) 253-0042
emilyabeledo@icloud.com
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